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Navigating Parental Alienation – A Guide for Families

Navigating Parental Alienation – A Guide for Families

Navigating Child Reluctance in Post-Divorce Parenting: A Guide for Texas Families 

As children of separated parents grow older, they may express reluctance to spend time with one of their parents. This can strain not only the relationship between the child and the parent but also between the parents themselves. If left unaddressed, these issues might lead to estrangement or even legal disputes. Therefore, addressing the issue promptly and effectively is crucial. Sometimes, but not always, that reluctance is caused by Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS). 

Understanding the Root Cause 

The first step in tackling this issue is to have an open conversation with your child to understand their reasons for reluctance. Are they bored, missing friends or activities, or is there an issue in the parent-child relationship? Identifying the root cause is key to addressing the problem effectively. Children often take emotional cues from their parents or caregivers, so maintaining a positive attitude about the other parent can significantly influence your child’s perception and willingness to spend time with them. 

Encouraging Positive Interactions 

In non-PAS cases, the other parent might encouraging positive discussions about how spending time with the other parent can be beneficial. Visits can be framed as exciting adventures or mini-vacations, focusing on the fun and unique opportunities each parent can offer. It’s essential to foster a supportive environment where the child feels comfortable and excited about maintaining a relationship with both parents. 

Addressing Parental Alienation 

In some cases, unfortunately, one parent might actively discourage the child from visiting the other parent, leading to Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS). This syndrome involves a parent, often with the assistance of his or her relatives, fostering a child’s rejection of the other parent. Parental alienation is treated as child abuse in Texas, and allegations are taken seriously by the courts. If you suspect PAS is occurring, quickly consulting a lawyer experienced in such cases is vital. Delaying action can exacerbate the issue, such as by allowing false memories to go unchallenged for long enough that they seem, to the child, to be actual memories.  

Legal Compliance and Enforcement 

If a parent is non-compliant with a possession order by not facilitating visits, judicial enforcement and/or the ordering of Reunification Therapy, might be necessary. Courts expect their orders to be followed, and failing to do so may result in dire consequences for the non-compliant parent; especially if that non-compliance harms a child’s relationship with his or her other parent. Contempt of court, and incarceration, are sometimes a consequence for alienating parents. Texas courts, for instance, are increasingly intolerant of parents who claim they cannot facilitate visits, while being able to manage other commitments for the child, such as school or sports activities. 

The Importance of Legal Guidance 

In litigation, such as an Enforcement Action, or the ordering of Reunification Therapy, approaches may vary by state. Consulting with an attorney familiar with your local jurisdiction is essential. An experienced Family Lawyer can help navigate the complexities of these cases and ensure that both the child’s and parents’ rights are protected. 

Conclusion 

Children deserve healthy relationships with both parents, and courts have tools to ensure that ordered possession periods occur.  It’s crucial to address any reluctance or alienation issues promptly to safeguard these relationships. These are complicated cases, in which the information provided by the child is sometimes either not factually valid; or, is interpreted in the worst possible way, by the child; with the encouragement and assistance of the alienating parent.  

Until next time, continue to love and support your kids, fostering a nurturing environment that encourages strong family bonds.   

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More About Protective Orders

More About Protective Orders

Protective orders are vital legal instruments designed to protect victims of domestic violence, assault, abuse, stalking, and threats from family or household members, or current or former dating partners. This blog post explores key considerations related to these cases, building on topics discussed in our previous articles on [Legal Protections for Family Violence (Part 1)] and [Legal Protections Available for Family Violence (Part 2)]. At the bottom of this post is a link for more details about the topics discussed herein.

Whether you are seeking a protective order or one is being sought against you, it is important to keep the following considerations in mind:

  1. Evidentiary Challenges: Family violence cases often involve unique challenges, such as the lack of witnesses or ambiguous physical evidence. It is crucial to determine whether injuries were caused by an attack, were defensive in nature, or resulted from an unrelated event. Consistencies and inconsistencies in statements made to authorities, healthcare providers, and others are significant, as are the congruences between injuries and incident reports. Both the petitioner and the accused should concentrate on case details, as resolutions often hinge on these specifics.
  2. Emergency vs. Long-term Protective Orders: In Texas, Emergency Protective Orders can be issued without a hearing following an arrest for a family violence crime, typically lasting 61 days. These differ from longer-term protective orders, which are granted by a District Court after a formal application and hearing.
  3. Investigative Process: Investigations usually commence with a police report. It is important to ensure consistency between the police report, medical records, witness statements, and other evidence such as photos or recordings. Discrepancies can be used by defense attorneys to question the credibility of the incident.
  4. Witness Testimony: Witnesses are crucial in supporting or refuting allegations, when they are available. Unfortunately, often they are not available. Attorneys should gather testimony from any and all witnesses, and then, assess their consistency with other evidence. A supposedly impartial witness’s refusal to cooperate may indicate bias, affecting their credibility at trial, when the refusal to cooperate is presented to the court. Naturally, friends and relatives of either the accuser or accused will not, likely, cooperate with the other party.
  5. Medical Evidence: If the alleged victim sought medical treatment, the medical report is pivotal in confirming whether injuries align with the victim’s account. There will be a History, section, in which the healthcare provider describes what the patient related about the injuries. There may, also, be drawings or photographs.  Both parties should be aware of the existence and implications of this information.
  6. Communication Analysis: Examining communications between the parties before and after the incident can offer insights into the events. Text messages or other communication forms may clarify what likely occurred.

These considerations are further discussed in this blog post, “Important Factors in Cases Requesting Protective Orders.”

Conclusion

Protective order cases can significantly impact the lives of those involved. It is essential to approach these cases seriously to ensure the court makes informed decisions about issuing a protective order. By focusing on details and evidence, legal professionals can better serve their clients and uphold justice.

 

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How is our family law firm different??

How is our family law firm different??

Clients who come to us, after using larger law firms, often complain that those bigger law firms seem to be more focused on generating fees, than providing effective and efficient representation. They tell us stories of enduring too many long, in-person interviews and meetings with various staff members (which they are charged for); being provided, and billed for, detailed written information about Texas Property Law, most of which does not even apply to the facts of their own case; vast amounts of discovery requests (such as oral depositions and subpoenas of non-parties) being generated and billed for) at the beginning of the case—instead of first narrowing the case to determine if formal discovery is needed or desirable; and if so, which forms of discovery would work best for your case. We have even experienced firms that will continue litigating a case after it has become obvious that their claims stand little-to-no chance of prevailing. They continue to litigate simply to generate attorney’s fees. Each and all of those activities leave clients believing that the practice of law is about earning money for legal professionals

While our firm does, indeed, seek to generate fees, we come at it entirely differently. Having practiced in DFW since 1989, the overwhelming majority of our clients come to us by referral—either from our prior (or current) clients; or, from other attorneys who do not practice Family Law; at least not highly adversarial Family Law cases. Why is that? Well, we know that providing quality representation is important; but so is doing it an efficient and effective manner.

So, rather than starting-off with an in-person consultation, that our clients would be billed for, we, instead, offer free 30-minute initial consultations over the phone. Next, when our clients hire us, instead of having oral conversations with our clients (in order to obtain basic case information), we, instead,  send secure links to a portal, where our clients are prompted to enter information about themselves, their families, and their property (if applicable) directly into our system  We can retrieve that information as needed; and, in significantly less time than it would take to gather that information through a conversation.

After retrieving that information, we discuss case options (such as, e.g., whether we need to prepare, and send, discovery requests to another party, or a non-party; whether we want to request temporary relief (such as Temporary Custody and Support Orders) from the court; and so on. Sometimes those items are desirable, and at other times, they are not. The point is that case activities are planned, so that costs and benefits can be analyzed, considered, and decided upon.

Finally, we bill in 1/10 hour increments, rather than the traditional quarter-hour increments. Also, we will aggregate brief emails together (which are sent back-and forth in a brief conversation), and make just one charge for the bunch, rather than charging for each email sent or received. I don’t like being nickel–and-dimed as a consumer; and so, we work to avoid doing that as legal professionals.

As of yesterday, our law firm appeared in spot #28 of a search for local attorneys. That ranking not likely to generate new clients. And, yet we stay busy. Referrals are the key to our practice thriving. We know that, respect it, and work to earn those referrals

Thank you for taking the time to read this piece!

My best,

David

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“If the parents cannot agree about child custody (“conservatorship”) how will the court make a decision on that issue?

“If the parents cannot agree about child custody (“conservatorship”) how will the court make a decision on that issue?

The parties (parents) will present evidence, and then the court will make a decision that the Judge believes will be in the child(ren)’s best interest.

In determining that best interest, courts consider the following, non-exclusive factors in Texas:

● the desires of the child

● the emotional and physical needs of the child now and in the future

● the emotional and physical danger (of one parent) to the child now and in the future

● the parental abilities of the individuals seeking custody

● the programs available to assist the parents

● the plans for the child by these individuals

● the stability of both parties’ homes and any acts or omissions of a parent which may indicate that the existing parent-child relationship is not a proper one

● any excuse for the acts or omissions of a parent.

We will want to prepare our evidence in a logical, easy-to-understand manner, so that our presentation best shows why those factors favor you.

That is why it is important that you take the time necessary to thoughtfully and completely input information into our system. We will discuss all of this with you prior to any hearing or mediation.

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How Does Family Violence Affect a Family Law Case

How Does Family Violence Affect a Family Law Case

We previously discussed Family Violence, and available Protective Orders within “Legal Protections for Family Violence (Part 1),” “Legal Protections Available for Family Violence,” (Part 2), and “Important Factors in Cases Requesting Protective Orders.” Those posts discuss the availability of those orders; issues that are important for the court to determine whether Family Violence has occurred; and, “Just what is Family Violence, anyway?” Today, we will discuss a different, but related subject: how does a finding of Family Violence affect a Family Law case?

The relationships between parents, with one another, as well as the relationships that those parents have with their children, was once thought to be a ‘family matter” that was beyond the scope of courts to address. The idea was that family members can and should address any issues that they have with one another. Obviously, that way of thinking has been replaced with one that seeks to protect children from being abused or neglected, themselves, and from growing up in homes where there is Domestic Violence occurring. The ways that our courts do that during Family Law litigation is the subject of today’s writing.

Initially, it is important to note that while each of the 50 states comprising the United States has laws protecting children in these circumstances, we will limit our discussions to Texas law today. For information on the laws of other jurisdictions, please consult with a properly licensed and experienced attorney for that jurisdiction.

Under Texas law, Family Law cases involving children (Suits Affecting the Parent-Child Relationship) begin with certain presumptions. These include presuming that parents should be appointed as Joint Managing Conservators of their children;[1] and, that each parent should be awarded a minimum of Standard Possession of his or her children[2] who are three years of age or older.[3]  Those presumptions, however, do not apply when “credible evidence is presented of a history or pattern of” child neglect, child abuse, or abuse of the other parent.[4]  In those instances, other presumptions apply.

Those other presumptions include restricting or limiting the access of the “violent parent” to the children;[5] and, appointing the “Non-Violent Parent” as the Sole Managing Conservator of the children.[6] The court may require that any possession of the children given to the “Violent Parent” “be continuously supervised by an entity or person chosen by the court.” And, the exchange of the children, instead of taking place at the children’s schools, “occur in a protective setting.” The court can, also, require that a parent “abstain from the consumption of alcohol or a controlled substance … within 12 hours prior to or during the period of access to the child.” The court has the power to, also, require that as a condition of having child possession, the Violent Parent ”complete a battering intervention and prevention program;” or, (if that is unavailable), complete a program with a mental health professional who has proper education, licensing, and training is domestic violence.

Texas law has presumption upholding the rights of parents to raise their children. If, however, it is shown that children are not safe with that parent, our courts have powerful tools to protect children from that parent.

Until next time, keep on loving those kiddos!

[1] TFC sec. 153.131

[2] TFC sec. 153.252

[3] TFC sec. 153.254

[4] TFC sec. 153.004 & 153.005

[5] Id.

[6] A Sole Managing Conservator makes most of the important parenting decisions, without needing to first obtain the agreement of the other parent, or anyone else, for that matter. This is similar to when fathers used to merely pay child support, and have weekend visits, while the Mother “raised” the children.

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What to do if Child Support is Still Being Withheld After Kids are Adults

We helped a former client today who learned that his employer was continuing to withhold child support payments from his check, even though his children were “emancipated” (that is, they are at least 18 years of age, out of high school, and not disabled). It occurs to me that other folks in Texas might find themselves in this position, also; so, I am writing about that situation today.[1]

The first step in addressing this issue is taking a look at the Withholding Order. Does it explain (as it should) that child support is to be withheld for only so long as no child is
“unemancipated?” (“emancipation” is explained, above). If it does, then you should contact your Human Resources Dept. to discuss the withholding with them. For smaller companies, especially those which operate in just Texas, this may be effective. Larger, more geographically diverse organizations, often require that withholding for child support continue until such time as they receive a new court order that expressly terminates that withholding (this is silly, in my opinion, because the withholding order, itself, mandates the termination of the withholding when the kids age-out; nevertheless, bureaucracies might not care, and insist upon their “policies” being followed, which might require a new order). Since suing your employer to enforce the terms of the withholding order seems unlikely to be a good strategy (for obvious reasons), we will need to try to satisfy their policies.

When another order is required by your employer, we consider contacting the parent (who is receiving the wrongly withheld child support), to see whether s/he will agree to  an order terminating the child support withholding.[2] If so, then a motion can be filed, requesting termination of the withholding; and then, an Agreed Order Terminating Withholding for Child Support prepared, signed, and submitted to the court. Next, we contact the Court Coordinator, for your particular court, to see whether the court will require a hearing (usually, no hearing is required, unless another party is involved in the case, such as Child Protective Services). If no hearing is required, then the Judge should sign your order upon our submission of it.

If a hearing is required, then we will set it, working with the Court Coordinator, for available court settings (dates and times for hearings). Once it is set, then all parties (usually, just the other parent) must be formally notified of the setting. Then, at the time of the hearing, we appear with you, present your testimony, and our argument, regarding why termination should end, and then, request the Judge sign the order.

Once we have a signed order, we will contacthe District Clerk’s Office to request that the order be sent to your employer. They will need to have a completed form with various information about your case, your employer, and the order. And, there may be a fee payment required.

Finally, the order should be sent by the District Clerk’s Office to your employer. And, the withholding should terminate.

We hope that this information has been helpful.

Until next time, keep on loving those kiddos!

 

Best regards,

 

David

[1] We are licensed to practice law in Texas, and are familiar with the child support withholding process in Texas. Accordingly, our comments apply only to those who have a child support withholding order issued by a Texas state court

[2]  Some parental relationships are toxic ones. When we are dealing with one of those, in which the parents can’t/won’t cooperate about anything, then we skip this step.

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Can I appeal my Divorce Case Judgment?

Today, we will discuss your options, when you are dissatisfied with the result of your divorce case.

Initially, it bears repeating that in most (perhaps, all) U.S. jurisdictions, fewer than 5 percent (5%)of the filed cases make it all of the way through trial. And, of those a very small percentage are appealed. So, the odds of your having an appeal are small. Nevertheless, appeals do happen.

We have done appellate work in Texas for more than thirty (30) years, so we have learned a few things about them. To begin with, it’s important to note that an appellate court is not going to reconsider the merits of the case, and (perhaps) reverse the judgment of the trial court, merely because one party is not satisfied with the case result. Instead, the appealing party (the “Appellant” in Texas state law practice) must show that the judgment of the trial court is based on reversible error. Let’s discuss this a bit.

In order for reversible error to exist, the appealing party must show (in Texas) that:

  1. the court made an error in its rulings; and, that error was of such magnitude that it probably caused the rendition of an improper judgment; or,
  2. the court abused in discretion on matters for which it has discretion. Those discretionary matters include issues such as child custody, and the award of Community Property[1]) are not going to be found to be error, unless the court’s judgment is found to be an abuse of that discretion. In Texas, that means that the court acted arbitrarily or unreasonably; or, without reference to guiding rules or principles. That is (obviously) a high standard to meet.

In regard to the first of those, one or more erroneous rulings, typically on a matter of law, must be shown. For example, incompetent evidence is admitted; or, improper Jury Argument is made (if your case, in fact, has a Jury). Then, it must be shown that the Appellant properly preserved that error, such as by making an objection; obtaining an adversary ruling (a ruling against the objection; and, (perhaps) offering proof of excluded evidence.[2] That establishes error. Next, the more difficult task of showing that the error is reversible must be shown.

The presumption in Texas is that any error committed by the trial court is “Harmless.” In order to overcome that presumption, the Appellant must show (again, in Texas) that “the error complained of:

(1) probably caused the rendition of an improper judgment; or

(2) probably prevented the appellant from properly presenting the case to the court of appeals. (TRAP 44.1).”

Item Number 2 rarely occurs, in our experience. So, the focus is on Item 1, above. To show that an improper judgment resulted on account of the error, that error must be of such magnitude that it likely overcomes the cumulative result of the other case elements. So, we are not talking about trivial matters. Errors of this kind are matters such as admitting expert testimony (and, likely opinions) that were not shown to be relevant and reliable. Or, excluding important evidence (documents, audio-visual materials, or testimony, e.g.) that would likely significantly alter the case result. That is not an easy task.

Appellate work is specialized and highly technical. If you believe that you may have an appealable issue, please contact a qualified appellate lawyer as soon as possible. There are time limits which, if missed, can end the option of appealing a trial court’s judgment.

That’s all for today: keep on loving those kiddos (Grown-ups, too)!

 

My best,

 

David

 

[1] Texas is one of just eight (8) Community Property States; so, this concept of “awarding Community Property” does not apply to the other states and territories on the United States)

[2] This is a general discussion The technicalities of error preservation are beyond the scope of this post.

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Can CPS Terminate Parental Rights Based on Old Events?

As always, I can give advice only about cases pending under Texas law, since I am licensed within only that state. CPS in other states may be similar or dissimilar to Texas CPS

The Department of Family and Protective Services (of which CPS is a part) states in their publications that:

“(w)e promote safe and healthy families and protect children and vulnerable adults from abuse, neglect, and exploitation.

Values

Accountable: We act with a sense of urgency to deliver results in an accountable, ethical, and transparent manner.

Respectful: We recognize the value of each person and act timely, value privacy, and treat all with respect.”[1]

In light of those express commitments to act “urgently,” and “timely,” we might expect that if CPS had concern(S) about the safety and welfare of children, then they would focus on recent events involving those children. In our experience, however, that is not always the case.[2]

Our courts have held that allegations of abuse or neglect against a parent must not be too remote in time, if termination of parental rights is sought because of that behavior. And, if you think about it, that makes sense: something that a parent did or did not do years ago does not bear strongly on a child’s current living circumstances. Put another way, “termination proceedings should be based on facts that are fresh enough to apply to the children at the time of the trial.”[3]

Texas CPS has to show not only some act of abuse or neglect by the parent, but also, that the termination is in the current “best interest” of the child. So, something that happened long ago does not provide solid evidence of what is currently in a child’s best interest. Things change over time; kids mature, and their needs change.

So, what are some examples of time periods that our courts have found to be too long past (remote) to support a current termination of parental rights? Well, in our research we have learned that our (Texas) courts have, so far, not defined that time period precisely. They have, however, determined in one case that that five (5) years between the act of abuse or neglect, and the termination trial, was too long. Another Texas court has held that three (3) years was too remote to support a termination finding.

Consistent with those cases, the Texas legislature has enacted legislation in Texas which requires generally (as with most things dictated by a law, there are exceptions to the general rule) that termination cases end within one year of when they are begun. But, of course, even if they meet that standard, the acts of abuse or neglect may still be found by a court to be too remote if the case was not started until a long time after the incident(s) occurred.

So, CPS should investigate a case soon enough after alleged abuse or neglect occurs; and, begin and complete their legal case timely. The burden of accomplishing those things fall on CPS, and not on the parents.

As with most legal matters, it is important to consult with an attorney for legal advice as soon as possible. Once a case has been filed, you may be entitled to have legal counsel appointed for you.

As always, we wish you the best, and hope that all kids are treated with love and respect.

Until next time, please take care of yourself and your loved ones!

 

Best regards,

 

David

 

[1][1] Texas Child Protective Services Handbook,” Section 1110

 

[2] Granted that some things, such as our government’s response to a pandemic, is out of the control of CPS

[3] This language is from a brief that we prepared and filed

 

 

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Can I Change my Child Custody Order?

So, you have a child custody (or conservatorship) order. It was arrived at either by initial agreement of the parties, informal negotiation, mediation, or after a trial. And now, one of the parties wants to change it. Can that be done?

It is widely reported that each of the United States, and each territory of the United States of America, provides for modification of child custody orders under certain circumstances, such as a substantial change in the circumstances of a child, parent or other relevant party. The requirements for doing so vary from state to state. I am licensed to practice law in the State of Texas, and in no other. Accordingly, my comments will focus on, and be limited to, Family Law proceedings within the Texas court system. While these comments may or may not also apply to another state or territory, it is important for a party who is considering this issue to be advised by an attorney who is properly licensed within the relevant state.

In Texas a final “custody”[1] order may be changed under a few different conditions which may have arisen since the last custody order was entered[2]

The most common reason that a child custody order is changed is because of changed circumstances of a child, parent, or other party. The change(s) must be material and substantial, to the extent that the current order is no longer in the child’s best interest. Further, case law provides that the change must be something not anticipated by the current order. So, for example, the mere fact that a child has aged, and/or is in a different grade or school is not, by itself, a sufficient change to warrant a modification of custody. An example might by the child’s development of a learning disability or emotional condition that negatively affects the child; and, further, which is unacknowledged, or unaddressed, by the parent currently having “custody.” The types of changes that may be material and substantial vary from family to family. The question is whether that change is something that should be addressed by the court, because the current orders do not properly address it.

Another reason why a custody order can be changed is the designation of a child who is twelve (12) years or older. A child of that age may express his or her wish regarding custody. Importantly, because the best interest of the child is still the required finding for the custody change to be made, the court does not have to follow the wishes of the child. A child might prefer a parent who does not ensure that school assignments are completed; or, one who allows the child to abuse drugs or alcohol. It is unlikely the court would find the child’s desire to be in his or her best interest in those circumstances.

Finally, custody may be changed if the parent with custody voluntarily relinquishes possession to another, for six (6) months or more, unless that relinquishment was due to the parent’s military service. Of course, the child’s best interest is still paramount.

Child custody matters can be emotionally fraught. Having a good emotional support system, along with wise legal advice, can be helpful in getting though that minefield.

Until next time, take care of each other, and love those kiddos!

 

[1] ”Custody” in not a formal term used within the Texas Family Code. Arther the term “conservatorship” (a Trust term) is used to describe those entrusted with the care of a child or children. And, the right to designate the Primary Residence of a child is awarded to one of the conservators. Being a conservator who has that exclusive right is the equivalent of what most people think of when they used the term “custody.” So, for ease of understanding, it will be used herein.

[2] If the change of “custody” is sought within one year of the entry of the effective order, then there are additional circumstances that must be shown, besides what is discussed herein today, This is a topic for a future post, so stay tuned!

Important Factors in Cases Requesting Protective Orders

Introduction:

A protective order is a court order that can be entered by the court to protect a victim of domestic violence, assault (sexual or otherwise), abuse, stalking, and/or threats by a family member, household member, or (current or former) dating partner. We have written more about these cases here: Legal Protections for Family Violence (Part 1) and here Legal Protections Available for Family Violence. A review of those posts provides context for this one. Today, we will discuss some of the considerations that are pertinent to these types of cases.

Discussion:

Cases in which Family Violence has been alleged by one partner against another raise issues that are not usually present in other types of cases; issues such as (often) a lack of witnesses who might corroborate or dispute the allegations; sometimes, either a lack of physical evidence, or evidence which is ambiguous, such as whether physical marks, bruises, scratches, and so on are “defensive,” i.e. were inflicted by a person trying to protect themselves, or were caused by an event unrelated to an encounter between the parties; or, even whether they were self-inflicted. So, it is important for the person requesting the Protective Order, as well as the person who is alleged to have committed Family Violence, to focus on the details of the case. These cases are not ones “to wing,” or to do “off the cuff.”

As discussed in the first article linked above [“Legal Protections for Family Violence (Part 1)], Texas has provisions for Emergency Protective Orders, which are typically granted upon the arrest of a person for a Family Violence crime (such as Domestic Assault), and usually last for sixty-one (61) days. Those are granted without a hearing, based solely on the arrest documentation provided by the police department. Those relatively short-lived cases are not what this post is addressing. Instead, it’s the potentially much longer Protective Orders that can be granted by a District Court, after application and hearing, that we are focusing on today (these cases are discussed within the second article linked above, (“Legal Protections Available for Family Violence”).

The investigation of the legal case (for both parties) typically begins with the police report (“Incident Report”). In Texas, the Application for Protective Order will almost certainly contain a report from one or more law enforcement officer who investigated the incident. The details of this report are important, and if they don’t align with other case materials, such as medical reports, witness statements, photographs, audio/visual recordings (and so on), then those details are suspect, and can be questioned. A skilled lawyer, defending the person against whom the allegations are made, will point-out those discrepancies to the court, so as to cast doubt on the reported incident of Family Violence. And, a skilled lawyer prosecuting the case will address and explain those discrepancies (to the extent that can be done) before the defense lawyer has the opportunity to exploit them.  Details, and explanations of variances within those details, are important.

Next, any witnesses who might either support or refute the case allegations should be approached, and, if possible, interviewed. If a witness refuses to speak with either lawyer, then that lawyer should be sure to provide evidence that the witness seemed to be favoring one party’s ability to investigate the case, instead of providing truthful information to everyone who sought it. This raises the issue of the impartiality of the witness.

How do the witness statements compare to the statement given by the person claiming to be the victim? If there are more than one witness, do they agree with one another on all important details? Do the witness statements conform with the officer’s report, and with the physical evidence, visual/audio recordings, photographs, etc.? Are there reasonable explanations for the variances? Is there evidence that witnesses discussed the events in question with one another, to arrive at a consensus narrative?

I next want to know whether the person making the claims in the case sought medical treatment. If so, was there a diagnosis made? Is there a medical report confirming that the wounds, marks, etc. are consistent (or inconsistent) with the patient history (what the patient told the health care provider)? When this information exists, it is often helpful to one side or the other. Consequently, both sides need to be aware of its existence.

Finally, I want to see how the parties communicated with one another running up to their important encounters, and whether they communicated afterwards. I expect to find a text string between the parties when I get one of these cases. What did they say to one another before, during, and after the event(s) in question? This is often quite helpful in determining what likely did, or did not, occur between them.

Protective Order cases can have a significant impact on both parties. And so, I encourage everyone involved in one to take it seriously. The court wants to grant a Protective Order when appropriate, but not grant one when not proper. Our job is to help the court see what is right in this particular case.

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