Recently, I posted the first part of this article, which discussed ways that you can protect your children from the ill-effects of a divorce in "How You Can Help Your Children Survive Divorce (Part 1)". This is the second part of that piece, and contains additional information to help your children as they make this life transition with you.
Divorce can be tough, especially for children who don’t know why it is happening, what it means, and whether they are the cause of it. The children’s parents can work together on a few things to lessen the impact of divorce on their children.
In the first installment of this series, entitled “How Child Custody Cases are Won (Part 1),” we went over the specific factors which a Judge will use to decide our custody case. Next, in Part 2, we focused on our initial case presentation, such as: letting the Judge know up-front about the specific rulings that we want the court to make at the end of the hearing; and, explaining how parenting has been done in this family up until now. If you have not yet read those posts (or if you have read them, but could use a refresher), then you should refer back to those earlier writings, (linked above) before reading Part 3. That will help you put the new information presented here into proper context.
During the 1960’s, only 10% of American couples lived together—cohabited—prior to marriage. Today, that number is between 60% and 70%, depending on which survey one believes. For years now, we have heard that shacking-up before marriage increases the likelihood that a couple will eventually divorce. But, is that true?